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From another forum...and some I read myself.
For those who think Incognito didn't know it was getting to Martin:
On the OL coach:
Pretty depressing to read, Martin to his parents:
Incognito: <> Jmart That <> is never [allowed] back
Pouncey: Bro I said the same thing I can’t even look at him the
same he’s a <>
Incognito: My agent just asked if we held mandatory strip club
meetings Jmart is <> ratting on everyone
Pouncey: Lol wow are you serious he is a <> boy
Pouncey: He’s not welcome back bro I can’t be around that
<> guy
Incognito: <> that guy if Ur not with s Ur against us
Pouncey: No question bro he’s a coward for snitching
Incognito: Snitches get stitches Blood in blood out <> guy
Pouncey: He’s dead to me
......
Over the next couple of days, Incognito sent the following text messages
to Martin:
Incognito: I need you buddy I’m getting killed in the media.
Incognito: Bro can we talk? The dolphins are talking about
releasing me
Martin did not respond to these text messages, and we understand that he
has not had any further communication with Incognito.
Nearly every player we interviewed had a strong reaction to Incognito. Many of them emphatically stated that he was a great teammate, a force on the field and a hard worker in the weight room and in practice. Many considered him a leader and a friend. At the same time, we repeatedly heard him described as loud, aggressive and boisterous, with little sense of social boundaries—someone who was constantly making boorish jokes and getting in his teammates’ faces, more so than other players, and frequently more than was welcome. A former teammate, Lydon Murtha, wrote in an article published on November 7, 2013 on SI.com that, while most people “can tell that some guys just aren’t built for [razzing,] Incognito doesn’t have that filter. He was the jokester on the team, and he joked with everybody from players to coaches.” During our interviews, teammates referred to Incognito using such terms as “smart mouth,” “inappropriate,” “crazy,” “vulgar” and “[removed].” Several teammates referred to his more outrageous behavior as “Richie being Richie.” One player, whom we found credible, said that Incognito was “a good player, but he is kind of a disease; he divides a locker room. . . .[Incognito] is the kind of guy who has to be the alpha male.” This player went on to say that Incognito “feels like he has to make fun of the younger players,” and “people join in with him so he doesn’t make fun of them.” Nearly all of the players with whom we spoke appeared to tolerate Incognito’s more colorful and aggressive behavior, even if they did not embrace it.
For those who think Incognito didn't know it was getting to Martin:
Once, upon hearing vulgar comments about his sister while waiting for an offensive unit meeting to begin, he says that he threatened “to start swinging in 30 seconds” if the comments did not stop, but his threat was not taken seriously, and the comments stopped only because coaches arrived and the meeting began. Incognito, Jerry and Pouncey said they did not recall hearing Martin issue this challenge, but another player recalled that on several occasions Martin told them to stop and threatened to start swinging.
A few offensive linemen, however, said that Martin was bothered, especially by the taunts about his sister, and did not view them as part of good fun. Here, we credit the minority view rather than the majority opinion and find it a more accurate depiction of the facts. Corroborating our finding are Incognito’s frank admissions that the goal of the vulgar taunting was to “get under the skin” of other players and that Martin sometimes appeared disturbed when his sister was insulted. Moreover, Incognito and other linemen joked about who among their teammates would “break first” in response to verbal taunting—further evidence that they knew their words might cause emotional distress
several linemen, whose statements we credited, corroborated Martin’s account that he routinely had been spoken to harshly and said they understood why he was offended. And several players we interviewed from other units on the team suggested that the vulgar language Martin complained about was over the top and was not common elsewhere among the Dolphins.
"Incognito boasted about "breaking Jmart" in a notebook the linemen used to tally fines and bonuses among themselves. When the investigation began, Incognito asked another player to destroy the book, but investigators obtained it."
On the OL coach:
Turner was aware of the running “joke” that Player A was gay, and on at least one occasion, he participated in the taunting. Around Christmas 2012, Coach Turner gave the offensive linemen gift bags that included a variety of stocking stuffers. The gifts included inflatable female dolls for all of the offensive linemen except Player A, who received a male “blow-up” doll. [Jonathan] Martin and another player reported that they were surprised Coach Turner did this; Martin further said that he was offended that Turner had endorsed the humiliating treatment of Player A by participating in it. Incognito and others agreed that this incident with Coach Turner occurred. When interviewed, Turner was asked if he gave Player A a male blow-up doll. He replied, “I can't remember."
Pretty depressing to read, Martin to his parents:
On April 22, 2013,Martin wrote to his mother:
I figured out a major source of my anxiety.I’m a push over, a people pleaser. I avoid confrontation whenever I can, I always want everyone to like me. I let people talk about me, say anything to my face, and I just take it, laugh it off, even when I know they are intentionally trying to disrespect me. I mostly blame the soft schools I went to,which fostered within me a feeling that
I’m a huge pussy, as I never got into fights. I used to get verbally bullied every day in middle school and high school, by kids that are half my size. I would never fight back, just get sad & feel like no one wanted to be my friend, when in fact I was just being socially awkward. Most people in that situation are witty & quick with sarcastic replies, I never have been. I’m awkward around people a lot of the time because I simply don’t know how to act around them. . .
Shortly thereafter, Martin’s mother responded:
My first thought is that I am glad you wrote this down as a way to start figuring it out. There are people in the world with their own insecurities and they tend to be bullies and confront people. Dealing with them can be a challenge. I think when you feel really good about yourself they won’t bother you as much because you won’t let them define you.This fits into wanting to please and be liked. Some people out there are not worth it. We do live in a bubble. Financial and professional success is sheltering. Which is both good and bad. I think the NFL has a disproportionate share of people who are obscure but masking it with aggression. Your
profession is really difficult with measurement and evaluation every week. So we need to build up you liking you. This is where some professional help would be good. They can help you structure your thoughts. And that whole brain chemistry thing is real. You may need some additional seratonin. . .
Martin, however, seemed unconvinced that his mother’s suggested solutions would be sufficient to alleviate his anguish. The same day, he wrote to her:I care about my legacy as a professional athlete. But I’m miserable currently. A therapist & medication won’t
help me gain the respect of my teammates. I really don't know what to do Mom
On April 29, 2013,
Martin sent the following message to his father, which included a reference to the dinner in Fort Lauderdale where Martin says
Incognito had called him a “******” and a complaint about insults concerning his sister:
People call me a ****** to my face. Happened 2 days ago.And I laughed it off. Because I am too nice of a person.
They say terrible things about my sister. I don’t do anything. I suppose it’s white private school conditioning, turning the other cheek
Martin’s father responded:
They think ****** is okay because black people use it. Tell them you don’tuse it and it is never okey and if they do it again then they can kissyour black ass. Likewise say that your sister is a Madonna. If they say it again they can kiss your ass. If they do say either again then just stare at them give them and give them your finger. Just so you know, I punked out many times including over
******. Also over just being black. Mot proud of it in the least. It is just a matter of understanding your own strength.
Had 3 white boys outside of a bowling alley calling me ******. I backed down.Had a Harvard asshole talk about my suntan. I backed
down. Just stay who you are. Also, I learned how to pop a bully in his mouth and kicked one in his balls.
On May 5, after feeling humiliated by Incognito and Pouncey during a yacht trip, Martin sent his mother these messages:
I’m never gonna change. I got punked again today. Like alittle bitch. And I never do anything about it. I was sobbing in a rented yacht bathroom earlier