Harbaugh has been a hothead and a douchbag his whole life, his brother admits he could not keep friends growing up because of it, he went out of his way to find Jim Kelly and call him out and punch him when he was a player over a comment which broke his hand by the way. Bo said he was hard headed and stubborn as well, he had to use a heavy hand approach to keep him in line for a long time. That may have been Bo's style anyway but I think it is also the style he emulates.
Not taking anything away from his Football playing ability or coaching, but he is not a nice guy naturally. Combine the volatile coaching style of Bo and his personality naturally and you get a great player and coach with a tendency to yell and go off on things because he is just that type of person. Again watching the transformation of Colin from a humble kid to a arrogant punk I see the Money, spotlight and Harbaugh all influencing him.
The my shit don't stink mentality is all Harbaugh though. They by all rights would be at the top of the heap if not for the guy who got all the spotlight in the Pac 12 when Jim was coaching, he just happened to come into the same conference and division as Harbaugh. Pete is a constant reminder that he is second fiddle, in salary, in National Championships,in big game wins and in Super Bowls wins. Having seen Harbaugh play, and now coach, his competitive nature and outspoken personality are all primed for the Seahawks to push the buttons to ignite a situation. Whether it's him or his players but definitely his QB.