Payton is a great play caller, he had a QB that was smart, had guts, loved by his team and would bleed for them. That guy retired, he also is in the mold of Belichick and whatever it takes to win and motivate a player to do what he wants them to do.
Wilson is about the Brand and his legacy, he still has not figured out that if you put yourself out there on the line with the rest of the team all the things he wants would have happened. There is a reason his team mates keep their distance from him, he doesn't involve himself as a team mate with them. He would not bleed for them if asked.
Why Matt was a better QB and team guy, his team mates loved him because he would sell out for them, Wilson will sell them out.
Payton sees that in Wilson, he changed the environment right away which had to piss Wilson off also, Wilson thought he would cement his legacy, didn't understand that he had to change to do it, he lost weight, he said all the right things in public, but you look at his team mates and how they interact he is the same guy, Payton won't coddle him like Pete did, Drew earned Payton's respect, it's obvious that Wilson and his entourage has not.
Sure Payton is a jerk, Belichick is a Jerk, plenty of head coaches have been jerks, but these two know offense and defense and will push the rules beyond boundaries and say it's all good till your caught doing it. That's what you get with him and that type, if he is on your team you love him for it, and everyone else will hate you.