We used to go duck hunting Tuesday and Thursday mornings before school... as 12/13 year olds... unsupervised... walk to school, and our woodshop teacher would open the shop lockers so we could store our guns there until after school.
We had bullying,.. at times bad bullying... but we were allowed to fight it out. Teachers would let kids fight a bit and blow off steam before intervening. In never crossed anyone's mind to shoot someone else with a gun, or worse, a bunch of innocents. But, also, we were never exposed to graphic violence -- video games were nothing but a bouncing blip between two paddles, and when the bad guys and good guys shot it out on TV, there was no blood even when someone actually got hit. I never even heart the term "serial killer" until the after the movie "Halloween" came out. and Bundy was all over the news.
We also got swats at school, and if you got hit by your teacher at school... chances are you were going to get it worse from your parents when you got home.
I won't pretend it was all rose colored though... or say "bring back the good old days". Tthere were bad things about that system. Teachers that were bullies, and so on, and THAT society happened to create "this" one! You can't go back, only forward.
If you read the extensive Chinese Study by their social scientists on our society it is pretty grim. Their studies predict the utter collapse of our infrastructure within 20 years and they are already taking steps to ensure what is happening here does not happen in China... the biggest issue being spoiled children, and too many single parent homes. There are moms who are great single moms, but they are the exception and not the rule - because most often, single moms live in poverty, when you are in poverty you are up against it and things cascade.
The big issue the study pointed out was lack of respect. Respect comes before love, you can't have a relationship of any kind -- with a friend, with a woman (man) with society, unless you respect others, and flat out these days -- kids grow up with parents who entitle them and do not teach them to treat others with respect, or with single moms who are being disrespected constantly, which teaches the children that people are not to be respected, including themselves.
Fathers leave them, boyfriends leave them, father's and boyfriends beat them, strange men in the house with their eyes on the little girls, or disregarding the boys. A boyfriend that is here and gone is not usually a father figure, in fact, the opposite. And so boys learn not to respect women, girls learn to take disrespect and neglect and become sexual objects instead of human beings, and everyone is angry and unhappy. I saw that starting to happen with guys who's mothers slept around when I was a kid... so much anger in there, beating on their girlfriends at 17 years old, and other nonsense.
And there is SO much of it, that there is no time to deal with troubled people in depth anymore, mental illness goes ignored, people are cycling in and out of jail... what is it right now? I believe 1 in 20 are in or have been in the penal system. That's insane.
Cycles cascade, you get a negative feedback loop and society constantly worsens and the focus becomes the external objects. the negative examples and violent movies, the guns, and all the other tools that are accessories to the butcher, instead of the butchers and the butchery itself.
What makes it worse, is that people pretend to know all the causes, or all the answers... the situation becomes a drumbeat for "my ideology" -- the conservatives say: "Listen to us, we will fix it!" and the liberals say "Vote for us, we will fix it!" This religion, that philosophy, this cult, this drug, this science -- all snake oil salesmen on the side of the road offering the magic tonic that will fix all our ills,. Ideologies have completely and totally failed us for decades on end, yet we keep returning to them because it is all that we know.
And everytime there is loss, one faction blames the other. Could you imagine that on a sports team? Imagine last year, that the defense started pointing fingers when the hawk offense struggled!!! Nope, the defense had their back.
That's what we need in this country -- our factions to have the other guy's backs, instead of saying "only my way will work, this is your fault." Everyone needs to kind of pitch in and remember that we are all on the same team and we all go down together when we lose.